( 原文寫於2018年 | 香港 )

從小到大，我都很重視教導Jason三件事：

誠實、守規則、不要為他人添麻煩。

這些都是我多年來在學會活動中學到的做人道理，也是我一直相信的人生基本原則。

誠實

做人若不誠實，就難以建立別人的信任。

沒有信任，人與人之間便容易產生距離，也難以建立真正的人際關係。

誠實，亦是一種反省。做錯了，就勇於承認；承認了，才能學會改進，真正做到「經一事，長一智」。

所以，我一直相信，誠實會影響一個人的一生。

守規則

孩子從小需要學習什麼可以做，什麼不可以做。

懂得是非對錯，也明白努力付出後，才會得到相對的成果。

就像在公園排隊玩滑梯，每個人都願意付出時間和耐性等待，所以輪到自己的時候，就能安心去玩。

相反，插隊的人，其實是搶走了別人的成果，漠視別人付出的時間、耐性和努力，也是不尊重他人的表現。

我亦一直教Jason，就算遇到衝突，也不要用暴力解決。

如果在學校被同學欺負，他可以找老師、找同學幫忙，但不要還手。因為一旦動手，事情只會變得更複雜。

若真的無法避免，也可以選擇遠離傷害，保護自己。

我希望他從小學懂規矩，將來成為一個守法、正直的人。

不要為他人添麻煩

每個人每天都有自己的事情需要處理。

如果我們多一點同理心，就會明白自己的行為，很多時候都會影響身邊的人。

例如上課時專心，不只是為了自己，也是尊重老師和同學。

如果故意搗亂，不單自己受罰，也會影響老師教學，甚至影響整班同學的學習。

真正的同理心，不只是嘴上說一句「我明白」。

而是願意把理解化成行動。

時間會證明一切

教育從來不是一天兩天就能看見成果。

曾經有人不認同我們的教養方式，也有人認為我們對孩子要求太多。

那時候，我也曾反覆問自己：「是不是我們真的做錯了？」

思考過後，我仍然相信，誠實、守規則、尊重別人，並沒有錯。

所以，我選擇不再爭辯。

我相信：

人在做，天在看。

很多事情，不需要急著證明自己。

時間，終究會慢慢給出答案。

共勉之。🌻🌿

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🌿 後記（2026）

再次讀回這篇文章，我仍然記得當時的心情。

那段日子，我們因為教養方式而受到不少誤解，也曾被人批評，甚至被一些人疏遠。坦白說，當時真的很委屈，也很生氣。

但我沒有急著反駁，而是不斷反省自己。

我問自己：「是不是我真的做錯了？」

思考了很久，我仍然相信，我們教孩子誠實、守規則、尊重別人，並沒有錯。

於是，我選擇把答案交給時間。

今天回頭看，我已經沒有當年的憤怒。

反而更明白，每個家庭都有自己的教育方式，每位父母都在用自己認為最好的方法陪伴孩子成長。

我不能要求所有人認同我，但我依然相信，品格比成績重要，做人比成功重要。

而這份相信，直到今天，從未改變。🌻🌿

12 | Jason’s Little Moments @ Time Will Tell

Originally written in 2018 · Hong Kong

Since Jason was little, there have been three values I have always tried to teach him:

Be honest. Respect rules. Don’t make life harder for others.

These are simple lessons, but they have always been the foundation of how I believe a person should live.

Honesty

Honesty is where trust begins.

Without trust, meaningful relationships are difficult to build.

More importantly, honesty allows us to admit our mistakes, learn from them, and grow stronger as people.

That is why I believe honesty shapes a person’s character for life.

Respecting Rules

Children need to understand from an early age what is right and what is wrong.

Rules are not there to take away freedom—they help everyone live fairly together.

Imagine waiting in line for a playground slide. Everyone gives their time and patience, so when it’s finally your turn, you can enjoy it knowing you’ve respected everyone else.

Cutting in line isn’t just taking someone’s place; it’s taking away the reward they earned through patience.

I also taught Jason never to solve problems with violence.

If someone hurt him at school, I wanted him to seek help rather than fight back. Protecting yourself doesn’t always mean fighting. Sometimes, walking away is the wiser choice.

My hope has always been that he would grow into an honest, respectful and law-abiding person.

Don’t Create Unnecessary Trouble for Others

Everyone already has enough challenges in life.

When we think about how our actions affect others, we naturally become more considerate.

Paying attention in class isn’t only about your own learning—it also respects your teachers and classmates.

Real empathy isn’t simply saying, “I understand.”

It is choosing actions that show consideration for others.

Time Will Tell

Parenting is never judged by a single day.

There was a time when some people questioned the way we raised Jason. They believed we expected too much from him.

I questioned myself as well.

After thinking deeply, I still believed that teaching honesty, responsibility and respect could never be the wrong choice.

So instead of arguing, I chose to let time speak.

Sometimes we don’t need to prove ourselves.

Time has a quiet way of revealing what truly matters.🌻🌿

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🌿 Reflection (2026)

Reading these words again brings back many memories.

At that time, our family experienced misunderstanding because of our parenting choices. We were criticised, judged, and even distanced by some people. I remember feeling deeply hurt.

Instead of defending myself endlessly, I spent a long time reflecting.

I asked myself whether I had truly done something wrong.

Looking back today, I still believe we chose to teach the values that mattered most—honesty, respect, responsibility and kindness.

I no longer carry the anger I once felt.

Life has taught me that every family raises children differently, and every parent does the best they know how.

I don’t need everyone to agree with my choices.

What matters most is that I can look back without regret, knowing we stayed true to the values we believed in.

Sometimes, time really does tell the story better than words ever can.🌻🌿